Son dating the wrong girl
ou’ve seen it in the movies or on TV: the sweet, innocent daughter is busy studying for classes, spending time with her family, and volunteering at the local animal shelter.
The greasy-haired, tattoo-covered guy has dropped out of high school or college and spends his day driving around in his sleek car. Most of us haven’t experienced this sort of extreme, but it’s still very common for parents to find their older teens and adult children pursuing friendships and relationships with people they don’t approve of.
Ultimately, as you move from being an in control parent to an , you’ll recognize that you simply have to trust and rest in God.
Is there a friendship or relationship in your older teen or adult child’s life that needs to be addressed?
When you begin to envy your single friends and how they seem “free”, then you have an issue.
Every guy has times he wishes he was free- for example, when a beautiful girl passes you by in the mall or something- but this applies to the deep down desire to be “free” that many guys feel after being in a relationship they secretly hate.
It’s important for your child to come to those conclusions themselves.
If you are a staunch Democrat, you won’t do well dating the personification of Ann Coulter, and you should know that- and the opposite obviously applies as well.
Even on a religious basis, clash can occur- be careful to not bend your own beliefs in an attempt to retro-fit a girl into your life.
Start the conversation with love by sharing how you love them unconditionally, as I discuss in my blog [click to tweet] Your child will shut down if you start by attacking their friend.
Avoid making statements like, “John is always selfish and controlling with you,” even if you know it’s true.
Warning Signs: Believe it or not, your parents and friends often know a lot more about someone who would work for you better than you do.