Suddenly the bereaved child can feel as if they are losing their father to a new family.
Another family event is coming up soon, and I have already been told by my partner that he will not ruin his relationship with his adult married child. I understood this better a year ago as I had not met everyone yet at that time, but now one year later and I have met everyone, and they have been more than accepting of us together as a couple. I feel he is not being sensitive to my feelings regarding this. Thank you What stands out here is the emphasis on the word “ready”.
Without knowing the details, it does seem in Babs’ case, patience is paramount if there is to be any hope of a future relationship between Babs and her new partner’s children.
It is still a relatively short time since the loss and these are young adults still trying to find their own place in a world that now has profoundly changed.
Those issues that impact the grief process for the parent do not impact the children.
This is critical to remember; because each relationship is different, each period of mourning will be different as well.
Before we judge this-we do not know the circumstances-had she been sick for many years? Of course, for the children, those circumstances have little or no bearing on their own grief process.